God and His marriage problem
I mentioned earlier that I’ve gone all the stages from unmarried, married, divorced and remarried, and the same has God. No, I’m not going to compare myself to God, but we can still compare us with parables and stories of and from God. There are many stories and parables in the Bible, where some stories may be more personal for us, all according to the situation we are in, but all the stories in the Bible are personal for God. One of it I think are the most personal stories of God is when he is forced to divorce Israel … Continue reading
I mention last time that the Jews put in the text ‘Jewish’ in their divorce documents – “You are free to marry whom Jewish man you want”. This to ensure that she was married into, and continued, in the Jewish faith. It is quite interesting to see that Paul also makes a similar addition by telling the Christian widows that they were ‘is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.’, ie a Christian man.
“A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” (1 Cor 7:39).
Although Paul did not speak to those who already was married or those who wanted to divorce, Go ahead and read more!
We have actually reach 9 parts of the MDR series, and the 10th is coming here. It means we have covered some ground, both of matrimonial contract and divorce. What I see we haven’t cover so much is remarriage, as we now are going to take a closer look at, what the Bible is telling us about this question. Let me first put some light on some peoples mind and thoughts of what they use to come around this questions about remarriage. Continue reading
In a previous post I mentioned that divorce means ‘the procedure defined in the law of Moses.’ This means that there are reasons for taking out a divorce since there is a procedure for it.
Christians today accept that the Bible permits divorce for adultery, but they often believe that it does not allow divorce for other reasons such as physical or mental violence; when a man withholds money from his wife, stopping her from going out; or when a wife neglects the children and let them go dirty and hungry, keeping money back from the husband or psyching him out.
When one hears these things happen and does not find passages that literally looks at it as ‘burning child or spouse with cigarette, throw spouse down the stairs or pounding theirs head into the wall’, this has not led to other than confused and worried Christians because they conclude that God is not interested in such things; these problems do not seem to touch his heart – but why?
Death do us part
In MDR7 we started to undress the myth that marriage had a lifetime warranty, and we looked into 4 places in the Bible who seem to support this view; Mat.19: 6, Mat. 19: 9, Mat. 19: 5-6 and Eph. 5:32. I also said that there are two (2) passages that seem to support that only death can end marriage. These is what we are going to deal with in this post, which is slightly shorter than previous one we’ve been through in the past (a relief for some :))
This two text that seem to speak about that only death could end marriage, is taken from the Rom. 7 and 1. Cor. 7. This texts actually does not mention divorce at all, but they talk about it anyway. ??? How is it possible to talk about something that is not mentioned? Continue reading
A lifelong marriage is a great blessing and only death is the one who can end the marriage. If it was so, many would probably consider it as a blessing from God because it represents a lifetime warranty on marriage. But on the other hand, for the group of people where the partner is actually cheating and violent, this would be a life sentence in prison with the most cruel enemy, and the representative of the blessing would have been the death.
There is not everything that lasts forever or for a lifetime, and maybe that’s why marriage is so special. Imagine; some have proposed to you and said: “I love you, and only you!” and at the wedding, they say: “I love and honor you, keeping you in good and bad days till the death do us off.” It may well impossible be more affirmative that one that you love, this lifelong commitment to you. That is why it is so devastating when these promises are broken.
When people commit adultery or being cruel and / or violent, marriage starts to squabble and what happens next? Go ahead and read more!
We ended previous post with some questions, and true enough, there are many more questions about this topic than I can cover in MDR series. But in order to answer some of these, we must first have clarified one thing – marriage is a contract between two people.
I know there are many who dislike to connect a marriage to a contract. They tend to believe that marriage should be called a ‘covenant’, and not ‘contract’; because a contract can be broken while a covenant can not be broken, even if the covenant conditions repeatedly are been broken. It’s sort of something ‘divine’ over the word covenant, and true enough it is divine when God stand behind it, as when God makes a deal with his people. While a ‘contract’ is seen as a national agreement, a trading agreement or an agreement between an artisan and landlord – and can be broken. Why is it so? Go and read more!